Judgeth Not Those Eating Evil Foods — Not Even Yourself

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I attend­ed a meet­ing of the Sup­pers Pro­grams last night and heard the inspir­ing sto­ry of a mom who helped facil­i­tate the trans­for­ma­tion of her family’s health.

First she recount­ed the long list of prob­lems her teenage daugh­ter was hav­ing –

  • Dif­fi­cul­ty breath­ing
  • Fre­quent asth­ma attacks
  • Emer­gency room vis­its
  • Per­sis­tent skin rash­es

And she shared the utter frus­tra­tion she and her daugh­ter expe­ri­enced in try­ing to treat these symp­toms with­in the med­ical mod­el. They were run­ning from doc­tor to doc­tor, gain­ing — at best – tem­po­rary con­trol over one symp­tom or anoth­er, but nev­er mak­ing any real progress.

It was her expo­sure to Dorothy Mullen and the Sup­pers Pro­grams that opened up a new way of look­ing at health.

Her first chal­lenge was learn­ing that asth­ma, aller­gies, and her daughter’s oth­er symp­toms could be due to an unbal­anced approach to eat­ing. Grad­u­al­ly, she saw the sig­nif­i­cance of her daughter’s con­sump­tion of can­dy and sug­ary soft drinks. Even the slices of bread used to make a sand­wich (and their high lev­els of gluten) began to have malev­o­lent over­tones.

But the more dif­fi­cult chal­lenge for this mom was learn­ing how she could help her daugh­ter make the nec­es­sary dietary changes.

If some­one is under your roof and your con­trol you can influ­ence what they eat.  Up to a point.

It’s easy to nag some­one.

But ulti­mate­ly a teenag­er has to come to her own under­stand­ing and find her own moti­va­tion.

This par­ent shared with us the advice that helped her the most – Don’t be judg­men­tal about her daughter’s eat­ing.

Easy to aspire to. Hard to enact.

We all are famil­iar with judg­ing the behav­ior of oth­ers. Speak­ing for myself, I tru­ly enjoy my feel­ing of moral supe­ri­or­i­ty when I notice some­one else act­ing out­side the moral order that I sup­pose should be rul­ing the uni­verse.

It’s hard to shed that famil­iar self-sat­is­fied plea­sure and trade it in for the mode of non-judg­ing.

But that’s what this mom did. She con­tin­ued to edu­cate her­self about nutri­tion and health. She set a good exam­ple by improv­ing her own diet and the meals she was pro­vid­ing for her fam­i­ly. She encour­aged her daugh­ter to pay atten­tion to her own bod­i­ly sen­sa­tions and notice those things that made her feel worse. Or bet­ter.

And she tried like heck to avoid judg­ing her daugh­ter.

The result?

With­in a few months, her daugh­ter had adopt­ed an entire­ly new approach to eat­ing for her­self. On her own. She snacked on raw veg­eta­bles. She bugged her par­ents to pur­chase a brand new (and very expen­sive) blender to make smooth­ies. She teased her mom about the aspects of her diet that were less than opti­mal. She con­coct­ed sand­wich wraps using col­lard leaves.

No more emer­gency room vis­its. Far few­er episodes of upper res­pi­ra­to­ry infec­tion. Clear skin. Bet­ter ener­gy and con­cen­tra­tion at school.

A world of health is there wait­ing for you. Empow­er your­self to move toward it. And reach out a non-judg­men­tal hand to oth­ers around you who can share the jour­ney.


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About Ronald Lavine, D.C.

Dr. Lavine has more than thirty years' experience helping patients alleviate pain and restore health using diverse, scientifically-based manual therapy and therapeutic exercise and alignment methods.

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